Childhood… most of us enjoyed that little period of time to the fullest. Making friends
with other kids was so easy but breaking friendship was the hardest. So many times we
said ‘aari!’, pointing our pinky finger at someone( in bengali, it simply means we are no
longer friends!) and the next day we were back again as best pals! Being so immature at that time, the only thing that mattered to us is the enjoyment we had together and the little problems we had with each other never really came between those friendships.
Then we grow up and the definition of friendship, the way we share our life start to
change too along the way. By the time we hit adulthood, we all know the kind of friends
we should look for. But whether it’s choosing right friends or the right partner, all we
want is to express ourselves... to share our life to some extent. And the invention of social networking sites like facebook has made such a big progress in helping us share our life… or has it really achieved that?
Making or ‘breaking’ friends has now become as easy as adding or deleting someone
from your friend list in facebook, easier than it was during childhood isn’t it? The fact is
you can hardly judge a person’s personal happiness from his facebook friend list. A guy
may have well over a thousand friends in facebook but his real life can still be empty, no
one ‘real’ to share his world.
The thing that made me think about this is the last realizations Chris McCandless wrote
in his diary in the film ‘into the wild’. The film deserves a separate article on it altogether
but here, only the final words matter most and those were: Happiness only real when
shared.
It explains why we feel so happy sharing our thoughts, our experiences with others, why
we give so much importance to friendship. We feel relaxed sharing our experiences with
others, be it a good experience or a bad one. It gives us a strange feeling of satisfaction knowing there are people who are concerned maybe just a little bit about our life. Often times we are wrong. The persons we trust for these kinds of relationships shouldn’t be just about anyone, surely not someone we hardly know of.
The friendship we develop through sharing our daily life puts a heavy price on it and if it breaks somehow, it causes the most pain. You just can’t strike off a friend like this from
life and forget about it. To me, happiness can never be real when shared with a wrong
person. So cheers to all my facebook friends and I do have a lot of them but I will hardly
count anyone in when thinking about sharing some inner thoughts with someone.
My world will remain confined to a handful of people I know I can trust. So these few lines are dedicated to those friends who have affected me in both positive and negative ways and shaped my thoughts about the whole matter in general. Nothing is more educative than experience and I would like to thank them for enriching me with mixed experiences.
with other kids was so easy but breaking friendship was the hardest. So many times we
said ‘aari!’, pointing our pinky finger at someone( in bengali, it simply means we are no
longer friends!) and the next day we were back again as best pals! Being so immature at that time, the only thing that mattered to us is the enjoyment we had together and the little problems we had with each other never really came between those friendships.
Then we grow up and the definition of friendship, the way we share our life start to
change too along the way. By the time we hit adulthood, we all know the kind of friends
we should look for. But whether it’s choosing right friends or the right partner, all we
want is to express ourselves... to share our life to some extent. And the invention of social networking sites like facebook has made such a big progress in helping us share our life… or has it really achieved that?
Making or ‘breaking’ friends has now become as easy as adding or deleting someone
from your friend list in facebook, easier than it was during childhood isn’t it? The fact is
you can hardly judge a person’s personal happiness from his facebook friend list. A guy
may have well over a thousand friends in facebook but his real life can still be empty, no
one ‘real’ to share his world.
The thing that made me think about this is the last realizations Chris McCandless wrote
in his diary in the film ‘into the wild’. The film deserves a separate article on it altogether
but here, only the final words matter most and those were: Happiness only real when
shared.
It explains why we feel so happy sharing our thoughts, our experiences with others, why
we give so much importance to friendship. We feel relaxed sharing our experiences with
others, be it a good experience or a bad one. It gives us a strange feeling of satisfaction knowing there are people who are concerned maybe just a little bit about our life. Often times we are wrong. The persons we trust for these kinds of relationships shouldn’t be just about anyone, surely not someone we hardly know of.
The friendship we develop through sharing our daily life puts a heavy price on it and if it breaks somehow, it causes the most pain. You just can’t strike off a friend like this from
life and forget about it. To me, happiness can never be real when shared with a wrong
person. So cheers to all my facebook friends and I do have a lot of them but I will hardly
count anyone in when thinking about sharing some inner thoughts with someone.
My world will remain confined to a handful of people I know I can trust. So these few lines are dedicated to those friends who have affected me in both positive and negative ways and shaped my thoughts about the whole matter in general. Nothing is more educative than experience and I would like to thank them for enriching me with mixed experiences.
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thats a nice thought! :)
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