We all remember the famous quotes from the fairy tale Snow White and The Seven Dwarves, "Mirror, mirror on the wall / Who in the land is fairest of all?" –asked the evil queen. The answer she always got was that she’s the most beautiful of all, until one day when the mirror truthfully said that Snow White is fairer than the queen and that pissed the queen off pretty badly.
How difficult it is for every one of us to accept the truth... isn’t it?
Unfortunately there exist no mirrors that can show us the truth in ourselves. We do have a mirror that resides in our heart and sadly we never use it without being biased towards our own self. We ask our mirror: ‘am I a good person?’ or ‘was it my fault?’ or ‘have I done anything wrong?’ and the answers that will reflect from the mirror are known to everyone and there will never be any shadow of Snow White lurking in the future to intervene our satisfaction.
I think if we look at our hearts neutrally without any ego involved, we can find the correct answers about ourselves. We can differentiate between the person we really are and the person we pretend to be depending on the circumstances. Sometimes we create a personality just to impress someone and sometimes we create it to avoid somebody and sometimes we do it just to protect our true personality. We can find our mistakes which are creating rift between relationships or tormenting our own minds, accept them and work on correcting those mistakes. If having multiple personality is some kind of desease, then we all are suffering from it.
But we should never look at other’s eyes to judge how we are as that mirror, too, is tainted. We will get feedback from that mirror about the personality we shared with that person, not the real one only we can know of.
Some of us pride ourselves for looking deep enough and understanding people we interact with but actually we fail most of the times without knowing it. The best thing to do is learn ourselves first. So next time, take a deep breath at night being relaxed, clear your mind of any contamination, and ask the mirror of your heart...
‘Am I really a good person?’
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